Crybaby or Nah?

One day my husband and I were talking when all of a sudden we heard Paige crying. We stopped talking for a second and then went back to our conversation. Neither one of us jumped up to see what was wrong, neither one of us ran to comfort her, neither one of us gave her crying a second thought .... why? Because we're bad parents? Nah! Because Paige was seriously hurt? Nah. Because the world is coming to an end? I mean it is but nah! We didnt give her crying a thought because somehow .... someway....Paige has turned into a

She cries for everything under the sun and moon! If she runs out of milk, she cries! If she wants blue instead of green, she cries! If it's sunny outdoors, she cries! If it's a Friday, she cries! If it turns 8:00 pm, she cries! Seriously our life consists of wah wah wah and side eyes.

It's annoying but after reading Reasons My Son Is CRYING I now know that I am not the ONLY parent in the universe dealing with a child who is love with the concept of crying. Knowing that I was not alone did ease my mind but it did nothing to solve the problem. So as an educated mommy,  I went looking for answers. I discovered a list of reasons for a toddler to cry all day and night.

* They are sensitive -- Really though. I cant imagine this being applied to the connoisseur of shade. I mean she hurts people's feelings all day long.  The same child who will walk up to her brother and slap him for no reason is sensitive? Nah!  This couldn't be the reason because Paige cries without us saying a word to her. Next reason.

* They are seeking attention -- Hmmmm I dont know about this one either but it is a better explanation than she's sensitive. I can see Paige crying for attention. Not because she does not get any but because Paige has been fed a notion that she is a princess. Therefore ALL of the attention should be on her ALL of the time. If you even think of curving one eye ball to the left and she's standing to the right, prepare for a showdown!

* They do not want to do what they have been told to do --- BINGO! Yahtzee! I could totally get with this one. Whenever Paige is told no we automatically know that a loud cry is going to come. We are use to it. I wasnt worried about this reason ... what worries me is the fact that the child cries without ever hearing the word no. Like literally she could be walking down the hallway and start hollering ... out of nowhere.

Like take for instance yesterday. We all loaded up in the truck to go and see Xmen. Paige's dad put her in the truck and went in the house to get her bag. I counted to five and then

the hollering began. Maybe this is just a phase that she is going through. Maybe it is something that we need to discuss with her doctor. Maybe it is something that we should seek treatment for .... does anyone have the number for Cryer's Anonymous? Until we find a solution I guess we shall continue to wave bye bye to crying like Cube did to Felicia

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Mama .... I have a crush!

Often times I blog about traveling through motherhood again with a toddler but every now and then I am reminded that I am still going through untraveled waters with my preteen. There are still new adventures that are occurring with him. Like for instance ... GIRLS!

Yep! GIRLS! I have mixed emotions about this of course. Recently my son has developed on a girl at his school. He has pictures of her in his phone, he blushes whenever her name is mentioned, and he talks about her constantly. He first went to his dad to discuss this crush. They spoke for hours with his dad dishing out advice and J confiding his deepest thoughts and fears. I felt left out. No one asked mom for advice or gave mom details about the girl. I felt like if anyone should have been shelling out advice ....

I should have because I AM the woman! So today he FINALLY comes to me and asks me for my advice. He only asked for my advice because he tried to give her a gift and when another girl took it, the crush allowed her to keep it. This hurt his feelings.  I listened as he explained what his father had told him to do which is basically be yourself, do not try to impress her, talk to her often, and just relax.

Not necessarily the advice that I would have given but ok. As we discussed the issue(with J laughing at ALL of my advice) I realized that my little boy is not a little boy anymore. It will only be a matter of time before someone's daughter is standing at my doorstep awaiting my greetings and approval. I've talked for years of what I would do, how his girlfriend should be, and what my reaction would be but honestly I do not know. This experience has taught me that what I thought I knew could be thrown out of the window. I am excited for Jalen because he is growing up but I am also sad for the same reason. It seems like yesterday I was changing his diaper or riding a rollercoaster with him and now he is trying to buy gifts for girls and talking on the phone. Time flies. I started this blog thinking what a journey I would be on with my baby girl ...... now this journey has been doubled ..... times deuce!

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Happy MOTHER'S Day!

Happy Mother's Day!!!!

This goes to all mothers, stepmothers, grandmothers, god mothers, foster mothers .... heck just ANYONE who is playing the role of MOTHER in a child's life. Anyone who is giving their all and loving a child unconditionally ..... today is YOUR day! May you have rest .... may you have peace .....may you have joy ............... may you relax, eat, be merry and

Being a mommy is the best job that I have. I cant lie. It's tiresome. It's a 24 hour shift with NO days off. 365 days a year. There are no raises, there is no union, and I cant quit. But I will say that my children are the best. When I am feeling down I think of them and burst out laughing. They are my pride and joy. I know people get tired of me talking about them, posting about them, and referencing them ... but WHO CARES! I'm a mom! That's what I'm suppose to do. Everyday with them is a new adventure and I am so glad that God chose ME to be their mother. Happy Mother's Day to ME .... and Happy Mother's Day to all of you! 

Paige walking to church

My two babies! 

Jalen walking to church

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No Rules at GRANDMA's house

My kids love my mama's house. They literally get away with murder. Things that I could not even dream about doing are totally accepted when they walk in the house. My son has free range to do whatever. His breakfast is served to him bright and early on a tray ... and it's always his favorite: grits, eggs, bacon, sausage, toast and orange juice. My mother always hands him the remote control and allows him privacy to enjoy his breakfast and watch television. He is treated like a little king. When we go to my mother's house my son knows that my mother is going to go out and buy his favorite snacks(if she knows we are coming) and that he is not going to have to lift a finger at his grandma's house. He's so

that its not even funny. Previously Paige had never experienced this because my mom had a dog and Paige had a reaction to that dog when she was four months. But that has all changed now!

This weekend my daughter learned that there are NO rules at GRANDMA's house! What mom says does not matter ....... what dad thinks does not matter ............. she can do whatever she wants at grandma's house ........ and she loved it. First she rearranged my mom's house.

She threw magazines everywhere, threw balls and just basically created a mess. When I tried to stop her my mom said "That's ok! Leave that baby alone!" Paige had a ball. After church and dinner, my mom took Paige outside to play. Now the rule at OUR house is Paige is NOT allowed to play in dirt. Grandma did not get the memo ........... or I should say she got the memo, ripped it up, stomped on it, burned it, and pretended she never read it because grandma not only allowed Paige to play in dirt, she encouraged it. Dirt dont hurt ... it's good for you. Yep that was my mama's motto. And what could I do? Nothing. I just watched. I watched my daughter laugh, throw dirt, play catch with her grandma, play with dirt, laugh, lick her dirty hands

Wait??? Did you just do that? Yeah she did. And then grinned at me. By the time we decided it was time to pack up and go home, my child looked like she was auditioning for a role as a raccoon in a play that I knew nothing about. She was sooooo dirty but so happy at the same time. 

Paige said I'm dirty ... AND lol

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Ava's Birthday Party

Today we went to West Palm to help Miss Ava celebrate her first birthday. I love a good birthday party and Ava did not disappoint. She had a Doc McStuffins themed pool party. I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with Paige as I stood in her room. She had her pink tutu princess type bathing suit which I felt need fancy hair or her hat to really have a WOW factor. I didnt feel like doing fancy hair and me & Paige have been fighting lately when it comes to keeping a hat on her head. So I looked at another option .... her red, white and blue bathing suit. There was nothing spectacular about the suit per se but there was a beautiful red headpiece that screamed WOOOOOOWWWWWWW!!!!  I decided on that one.

Chile Paige served 1940's hollywood glam! She knew she was looking good as she as soon stepped out of the door. You could not tell her anything! lol  We arrived, greeted everyone and went to dip our feet in the water. Afterwards Paige walked around exploring

When we finally made it back to our table, Paige spent the rest of the time people watching.

And then she realized she had something on her head and snatched it off.

Overall we had a good time. Even if we had to leave early. Paige received a pair of Doc Mcstuffins goggles and a neat Doc McStuffins gift basket. She really enjoyed the lollipop and frosted animal cookies. We look forward to celebrating with Ava next year. Fab party!

As soon as we got in the car, she was knocked out!

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Product Review: Avent Classic Straw Cup

Paige has had a million cups. Big cups, small cups, sip cups, straw cups, character cups, plain cups, cheap cups, expensive cups ...... and none of them last! Paige likes some one moment and then is disinterested the next. Some cups were hard to clean. Some cups were a pain to keep up with. The moral of the story is we've gone through a lot of cups.

So one day I'm in Walmart(when am I never in Walmart????) and I'm doing what I do best .... cruising the baby aisle, wasting time, and trying to figure out how I can give the man my hard earned coins. So I'm looking at cups .... because cups are always needed in our house. I spot the Avent cup. I will admit that it did not look special at first and I was hesitant to buy it but moms everywhere ....

This cup is the BOMB! Oh my gosh ..... I do not know who loves it more ... me or Paige. As a mommy I love this cup because it's easy to clean, I love the turn feature that prevents spills, and my daughter loves it.  It's easy for Paige to sip out of and it holds a fair amount of liquid. The cup is about $8-$9 for two which is not bad. The only drawback is that they arent fall out of your seat cute .... they come in two basic colors ... pink or blue. I have purchased four for Paige and she loves them.

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Mama dont play that.... how to handle a tantrum in public!

My daughter is the queen of tantrums ..... at our house. She throws them all of the time. When Paige wants juice and you dont move fast enough .... TANTRUM!  When Paige wants to watch Mickey Mouse and you're watching television ... TANTRUM! When Paige wants anything and it's either denied or the request is not granted in an instant .... TANTRUM! I do not even remember when they started but they have been happening for a minute. Everyone in our house handles the tantrums differently.  My husband is like

He is so fierce with his no. He wont even acknowledge Paige when she's in tantrum mode. She can get whatever she wants from him but in tantrum mode, its nada! Sometimes Paige's tantrum earns her a spot in the timeout until she can gather up her emotions and check herself. Meanwhile my son is always like

He does not entertain Paige at all. He will roll his eyes and close his door before he deals with a crying Paige. Paige's tantrums do not faze him. Meanwhile I'm always like

I know I shouldnt laugh or entertain her but I cant help it. She always looks so adorable as she's frailing around with fake tears running down her cheeks. My husband always warns me that if I do not get it together at home that the day would come when Paige would embarrass me in public.

So lets go to tonight. Me and the kids are in Walmart. We are walking around, having a good time and relaxing. Paige is in the shopping cart waving at bystanders and speaking lots of Paigenese. Then she asks to get out of the cart. I took her out and she proceeded to crawl around on the floor which was a big no. So she had to go back in the cart. I explained to her that she could not get out of the cart again because she was crawling on the floor and the floor is dirty. Everything was cool until we went to check out. We get to the register and in typical Walmart fashion, there are people everywhere. The lines are long hunty! Paige asks again to get out of the buggy. Before I take her out, I tell her .... "Paige you can walk around but if you get on the floor you're going back in the buggy"

As soon as this child got out of the buggy, she went straight for the floor and started crawling around. Well that was a big no no so I said time to go back in the buggy. As soon as I said the word buggy and went to grab her, the child tried ..... key word ... TRIED .... to throw a tantrum. She didnt make it far. 

See this is what my children know about me. I'm a cool mother but there are certain buttons that you just do not push! Because I am crazy and when those buttons are pushed I go from Suzy Homemaker to 

without even thinking. So when Paige "thought" about throwing a tantrum in the line my alter ego Nae Nae popped out and politely picked her up, put her in the shopping cart and said a NO so fierce that Paige stopped mid-cry and was like ohhhhhhhhhh snap! Her eyes were big and she was looking at me as if I was very unfamiliar to her

but I bet she sat in that cart and acted as if she had an ounce of sense. We went on a merry way and exited stage left. We all learned a valuable lesson that day. Jalen learned that Paige does not get special treatment ....  Naenae will emerge for her too.  Paige learned that acting out in public is just not going to be tolerated.  And I learned that I still have it :)

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