Mama .... I have a crush!

Often times I blog about traveling through motherhood again with a toddler but every now and then I am reminded that I am still going through untraveled waters with my preteen. There are still new adventures that are occurring with him. Like for instance ... GIRLS!

Yep! GIRLS! I have mixed emotions about this of course. Recently my son has developed on a girl at his school. He has pictures of her in his phone, he blushes whenever her name is mentioned, and he talks about her constantly. He first went to his dad to discuss this crush. They spoke for hours with his dad dishing out advice and J confiding his deepest thoughts and fears. I felt left out. No one asked mom for advice or gave mom details about the girl. I felt like if anyone should have been shelling out advice ....

I should have because I AM the woman! So today he FINALLY comes to me and asks me for my advice. He only asked for my advice because he tried to give her a gift and when another girl took it, the crush allowed her to keep it. This hurt his feelings.  I listened as he explained what his father had told him to do which is basically be yourself, do not try to impress her, talk to her often, and just relax.

Not necessarily the advice that I would have given but ok. As we discussed the issue(with J laughing at ALL of my advice) I realized that my little boy is not a little boy anymore. It will only be a matter of time before someone's daughter is standing at my doorstep awaiting my greetings and approval. I've talked for years of what I would do, how his girlfriend should be, and what my reaction would be but honestly I do not know. This experience has taught me that what I thought I knew could be thrown out of the window. I am excited for Jalen because he is growing up but I am also sad for the same reason. It seems like yesterday I was changing his diaper or riding a rollercoaster with him and now he is trying to buy gifts for girls and talking on the phone. Time flies. I started this blog thinking what a journey I would be on with my baby girl ...... now this journey has been doubled ..... times deuce!

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Mommy K